I am no longer amazed when I'm called to plan a wedding for two people who live on different sides of the country, or even in different countries for that matter. Whether the separation is due to work, school, or military obligations a surprising number of couples live apart before and even after marrying. Maintaining a long distance relationship requires a good deal of flexibility.
I'd venture to say that those who are successful are people who are fairly independent and confident in themselves and in their partner. Generally they make frequent trips that enable them to spend time together, and more frequent phone calls.
When it comes to planning the wedding having both members of a couple is preferred although not actually necessary. I schedule two meetings for planning a ceremony. In these meetings, I work with each couple to create and choreograph the ceremony ritual. One benefit to having both parties present is so the couple can discuss important details. And, I like to see how couples interact with each other. It gives me a better sense of what type of ceremony might fit for them. But with the options of conference calls, email, scanners, and other electronic opportunities it's possible to exchange important information instantly, even from a distance.
Whether you and your fiance are together or apart during wedding planning, I recommend setting aside time for personal reflection. Getting married is a big deal. Spending time alone to think about what you want in your wedding is an important thing to do. When you come to a place of clarity, share your thoughts and feelings and with your partner. Solitude and reflection can be very useful for creating a successful partnership--no matter how close or far away they may be.
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