I've been an officiant for countless ceremonies over the years. Some came off without a hitch and others…well, shall we say…"expect the unexpected." Still, it's best to avoid potential problems, so here are some tips to help.
1. The processional: Whoever made up the hesitation walk was not wearing high heels and walking on damp grass. Whether you're outdoors or indoors, the best way to walk is the same as you would normally walk. If there is music, simply walk in time with the music.
2. Length of ceremony: If you have a 45 minute ceremony, you will be standing in front of your guests, who are all looking at you, as you attempt to hold yourself elegantly and listen to the officiant for the whole 45 minutes--and that is a long time. It could be challenging not only for you but also for your wedding party and your guests to pay attention to someone reading out loud for any length of time. A ceremony that's comfortable for everyone is usually about 20 minutes long.
3. The ceremony flow: Variety is the spice of life and wedding ceremonies. Invite one or two friends or family members to speak or read. Weave something action-oriented into the ceremony, like a candle-lighting, wine sharing ritual, or other type of giving thanks or receiving blessings that can be done with each other, with your families or with the whole group.
4. What to do while the officiant is speaking: If the officiant is speaking to you, by all means look at him or her. If they are speaking to the group, look at your beloved. I don't advise looking out at your audience. You never know what you will see and distractions will not add to your poise.
5. The ring exchange: For an easy exchange lift your left hand to receive your ring. If the ring sticks half way, finish putting it on your hand yourself. You'd be surprised how many times these tips have saved the day for inexperienced couples.
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