So here they are: the first two questions posed to Anne and Ethan during their pre-marital counseling series. For fun you can answer them on your own or with your fiancé. To really mix it up, try switching roles and see how your answers compare to the answers your partner gave about you! On a serious note, if you can answer "Yes, definitely" to any of these questions you may have an issue that should be addressed with a counselor, spiritual advisor or other trusted confidante.
1. Does my fiancé seem to be irrationally jealous of my friends, family or past relationships?
Anne: Ethan does not believe that my gay male friend Devon is actually gay, despite the fact that he knows how to play every Indigo Girls song ever recorded on the guitar, and gives me homemade soaps and candles as gifts. Seriously, when Devon and I were roommates I would come home to find him belting out a rousting rendition of 'Closer to Fine' with a pleasant homemade potpourri bubbling on the stove…and he was NOT just playing 'sensitive guy' to impress the ladies. Oh, and he has a boyfriend, but Ethan still isn't convinced. I think he is jealous of our intimate relationship-especially when Devon to tells me if my purse makes my butt look big.
Ethan: Anne is definitely envious of my relationship with my male friends - but not in the traditional girlfriend-y "Why don't you want to stay home and eat veggie burgers while we watch Grey's Anatomy, instead of going to a stinky bar with your friends?" way. She can't let me go for a guys night out because she doesn't want to miss anything, and loves to play pool in a dirty dive bar as much as any buddy I've got. As for past relationships, we actually met through an ex-girlfriend of mine, who continues to be a friend of Anne's. I think this makes me more uncomfortable than it does her…I don't like the thought of them comparing notes or discussing the occasional performance anxiety that I'm sure every guy suffers from occasionally.
2. Is my fiancé prone to extreme emotional outbursts and mood swings?
Anne: Ethan is generally a quiet, sensitive guy. However, he has an irrational love for the NY Yankees that borders on obsession. Thankfully, I have never been on the receiving end of some of the shocking language and threats that fly out of his mouth during a Yankees game gone wrong, but let's just say it's a good thing Derek Jeter and A-Rod can't hear through the TV if they haven't performed up to par according to Ethan. If they could, they would fear for their lives, and for the well being of their families, friends and pets.
Ethan: For a wild and crazy gal, Anne is surprisingly even-keeled emotionally. I have rarely heard her raise her voice except when dealing with Sunday drivers whom she thinks should get out of her way, and even then she is more prone to using sign language (if you know what I mean). She does get a little moody if you don't feed her regularly, though - if I have an unpleasant topic to discuss with her, or if I'm late showing up for something I have learned to always come with some type of gastronomic offering in hand.
To be continued...
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